Charlotte: You are not going to lose Your MIND over a man!

You are not going to lose Your MIND over a man!

Sonya Walker
Published on: 07/27/10

First let me say to the men who subscribe to this newsletter, I am not male bashing. The purpose of this article is to help those women who have been emailing me whom are so depressed over the men in their lives leaving that they are thinking about committing suicide. I was going to write about something else this week but God led me to write about this.

Ladies, how are you going to take your life over someone who didn’t give you life? The One who loved you has already died for you and His name is Jesus and who now sits on the throne. I know the hurt of him leaving you for someone else is very painful. I know you’re wondering how I could be in love with someone who didn’t love me. Why, wasn’t I enough for him? I married him! I had sex with him! I had his child! Lord, I gave him everything! Ladies, while you’re depressed and upset he’s out having a great time and moving on with his life, NO ma’am you will not die and neither will you stay depressed. When God created you He had a plan and purpose for your life and He wants you around to see His promises manifest.

I have learned that in this life you never give anyone all of you. There is a part of you that is reserved only for you and the Lord. It’s called, ‘my secret place.’ It’s a place where you don’t let momma, family, children, husband, and boyfriend, etc. come in. You never allow anyone to take your desire to love, live, and enjoy life. I am a living witness that life does get better. When my ex-husband put me and my children out on street and brought another woman in and a week later my father passed away. I thought God, ‘you said my latter days were going to be better and if this is it I don’t want it.’ I stood at the door of what was supposed to be my home and I looked at him in his eyes and I declared these words to him, ‘You can have this house it’s just paint and wood but my peace is priceless.’ I walked away with tears in my eyes and pain in my heart but God. I wouldn’t be here today to write you this article if I had lost my mind over a man. Oh! I bless the Lord just because He loved me enough not to allow me to stay in a relationship that was not ordained by Him. Does this mean that God didn’t love my ex-husband on the contrary He does but He also knew the plans that He had for me. So, I had to almost lose my mind in order to get my mind. Let the truth be told you already knew that the relationship was toxic but you thought things would change so you stayed.

Now the same faith you had in seeing that relationship through now see God bringing you through. I don’t know the day or the hour but the Lord did promise that joy will come in the morning. Nothing and no one is worth losing your mind over. Father in the name of Jesus I pray for every beautiful woman who feels depressed because things didn’t work out the way she planned but Lord we know that this did not take you by surprise. Lord, I thank you that even though you knew the end from the beginning you still had a plan and purpose for their lives. Father in the name of Jesus, I know that depression is nothing more than someone having a distorted view of their situation but I know that you are a God that can open blinded eyes. Lord, all you have to do is say the word, ‘Live and not die.’ Do it God, heal their minds, heart, and soul. Satan I serve notice on you in the name of Jesus take your hand off their mind they belong to the Lord. Now my beloved give God the glory, the honor, and the praise. The best is yet to come.

Keys to being a kept woman

What is a kept woman? One whose not violated or disregarded; "unbroken promises"; "promises kept"

Wisdom teaches us to know the end from the beginning. Before you get involved with anyone seek the Lord because He knows the end from the beginning.

Don’t ignore the signs.

Ask yourself why do you tolerate or have tolerated foolishness for so long?

Stop, trying to re-raise a man, change, or correct him that is for the Lord. You are not God!

Sex only confuses things, so stop jumping in the bed and get to know the man. Just because he loves the Lord doesn’t mean he is going to love you. The bible says, ‘you shall know them by their fruit.’ Stay in the light so that you can see the fruit instead of lying in the dark.

Every woman should pray this pray. It is a prayer that the Lord taught me a few years ago. It is the fastest answering prayer because the Lord doesn’t want you wasting any more of your time with someone that He has not called you to. When I prayed this prayer I have had a man to be on his way to come and pick me up and while he was on his way was picked up for a ticket he had received years ago. When I finally talked to him the Lord revealed he was living with someone, working part time and no car. The car belonged to someone else. THANK YOU JESUS! Lol

My friends whom I have already taught this prayer received answers within the week. They really liked the guy and when they prayed the prayer the truth came out and needless to say, the man went bye bye.

Here is the prayer;

Lord, you know me? Lord, you know him? Can we date? You are going to hear many NO’s and only one YES.

If you are coming out of a relationship, BREATHE before getting into another one. Let the Lord heal and deliver you. If not this will be why you hear yourself saying, ‘Lord, why me.’ You don’t stop long enough in between before getting involved with someone else.

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Cynthia J. wrote on 07/31/2010 9:26 AM CST

WoW!!! This was powerful. I am witness that you must BE STILL and allow God to do his work. When a man findeth a wife, he findeth a good thing. The woman will not have to manipulate and make a man do anything because the Lord will have it all under control. Sometimes, women want to rush into something but you must be patient and allow God to direct your path. We are human and we make mistakes but we must always ask God for the answers and BE STILL/Patient so you can hear his answer. I also have a blog: www.somethingtothinkaboutbycynthia.blogspot.com Please read and make a comment!

Sherry D. wrote on 07/30/2010 1:23 PM CST

I really enjoyed this article. This information is so true. We as women are very emotional people and sometimes feel like we cannot move on. I am actually in the early stage of a breakup with my child's father. Initially, it was very painful but the reality is that I dealt with things that i should not have. The relationship should have been over before now. Keep delivering the positive message. Sometimes women need the additional encouragement to be strong even if it means doing it alone.

wrote on 07/29/2010 9:24 PM CST

all I have to say is Thank You! I wasn't going to kill myself, but I was in a relatiobship that wasn't good for me or my child. I'm still in the earlier stage of this break up and each day is hard, but your caring words have helped me cope. Sometimes when we are in these toxic relationships it takes an outsider to put things in perspective for you. thank you and God bless

Kee F. wrote on 07/27/2010 10:30 AM CST

AWESOME AWESOME AWESOM!!!! You are the best :)

Tasha wrote on 07/27/2010 7:53 AM CST

I really enjoyed readiing this article. And thank you for the "prayer". I will wait for my one "Yes"!!! God bless you!!

Sharon D. wrote on 07/27/2010 7:25 AM CST

Amen! Well Said! I am glad someone finally talked about this subject. All people need to learn to love God and themselves first before seeking a relationship to fill that void without asking God's permission.